tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328806125311364570.post2379905578108121618..comments2023-03-25T07:11:39.235-07:00Comments on Weighty Issues: When "funny" isn't funny....VegasGirlhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/18287754054912352955noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328806125311364570.post-70765787393504410102008-08-01T10:10:00.000-07:002008-08-01T10:10:00.000-07:00just as wel you love him cos to me he sounds like ...just as wel you love him cos to me he sounds like an ARSEHOLE! being disrespectful towards you now is not a good sign mate.... what is he going to be like if/when you gain weight during pregnancy! as for not listening to you and not talking to you etc...does not bode well for a happy marriage...My firt husband was lke that...aint with him now OBVIOUSLY. Good commuication is so very important in a marriage, as is LOVE AND RESPECT. RANT OVER!Chris Hhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03599144462630400401noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1328806125311364570.post-25095665889818905732008-08-01T09:53:00.000-07:002008-08-01T09:53:00.000-07:00Hey!I need to add your blog to my google reader......Hey!<BR/><BR/>I need to add your blog to my google reader...I can't believe I missed posts!<BR/><BR/>It sounded like you had a tough day...the moo noises are so not cool. But...you're story reminded me of one of my own...<BR/><BR/>When I was in my first year of uni I gained over 30 pounds...not sure if I told you this or not?<BR/><BR/>Anyhoo...by the time I was in my third year I felt huge, and unhealthy and unattractive...everyone called me "cute"...but who wants to be a "cute" 20 year old? I wanted to be hot and sexy...or at least pretty! LOL So I altered my diet and began working out (I love the elliptical but hate the treadmill...so funny!)... Because my husband (feels so weird to say that!) and I honestly don't have TONS in common or share a lot of the same interests I thought we could do some physical activity stuff as a way to spend some time together...and to help me shed the pounds. Because it was summer we opted for tennis...the racquets are cheap and there was a free court on my campus.<BR/><BR/>So I'm not the most agile person in the world...so tennis is pretty tough for me. Anyway, I was trying really hard...sweating the whole 9 yards. He would make comments like "move a little faster" or "try harder"...I know that these were comments to motivate me...but the peeved me off because I felt I WAS trying so hard...even if I wasn't good at it...lol<BR/><BR/>Lets just say he wasn't the best at it either...although he is much more athletic then I am.<BR/><BR/>Anyway, I put up with it for the rest of the summer, just ignoring his comments...or at least trying to. But at the end of that summer we moved across the country to where we are now - Victoria. Anyhoo, we played tennis a few times...the comments continued and I began voicing my annoyed-ness (I like to make up new words ;)...he told me he was just trying to help?? So when my sister and BIL came to visit we went to play tennis all together...for some reason the audience of our family made his comments become louder and more obnoxious (you're not trying at all etc)...so embarrassing. That was the last time I played tennis with him...nearly 3 years ago.<BR/><BR/>We've found other things to do together to improve our health...but tennis is no longer one of them. I think he misses it and hasn't made any nasty comments since.<BR/><BR/>So my point is...maybe this is how some guys motivate each other...while some women find positive encouragement more effective?<BR/><BR/>Later!AshleyHamihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15163501714615773937noreply@blogger.com